MYF 38 | Overcoming Perfectionism with Spenser Brassard
Welcome to Episode 38!
In episode 38, we interview certified life coach and mind-body fertility expert, Spenser Brassard. We talk about what really causes pain and suffering for women struggling to conceive and why perfectionism and negative thought patterns actually have just as much power to affect our fertility as poor health, diet, and lifestyle. And, of course, we talk about how we can start to overcome some of these issues, find true joy and happiness (even before that positive test shows up), and significantly boost fertility in the process! This episode is truly a must-listen if you’ve been having a tough time mentally and emotionally while trying to conceive.
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4:55 How Spenser became a life coach focused on fertility
7:10 Why you don’t have to suffer on your fertility journey - you can be happy now!
9:45 How our culture creates unhealthy thought patterns that affect us throughout our entire lives
11:40 The importance of letting go of perfectionism
14:55 The top mindset tools and strategies that Spenser uses with her clients
20:00 How negative thought patterns become like a tape on replay in our minds
21:15 Limiting beliefs that we have about our fertility when we’re struggling
24:00 Why it’s important not to fall into the comparison trap with others on the fertility journey
26:00 Allowing ourselves to feel pain also allows us to feel pleasure
27:45 We’re conditioned to believe that all of our negative emotions are bad
28:45 Don’t fake self-care - give yourself permission to ask for what you need and don’t feel guilty
32:05 You don’t “have to” do anything
34:50 Leaning in to discomfort and the amazing things that can come out of that
38:05 Why it’s actually none of your business how people respond to the choices you’re making
42:30 How to separate your fertility from your self-worth by overcoming perfectionism
46:30 The deep roots of perfectionist thought patterns and wondering who you’ll be without them
49:45 Spenser’s closing thoughts – this journey isn’t your fault and you don’t have to suffer through it!